Forgiveness
is a virtue every human must possess. By forgiving others, we let the
wrongs they've caused us go without trying so hard to repay them, thereby
hurting ourselves in the process. Unforgiveness lays a burden in our
heart which can lead to hatred and strife, thereby making us do things which
we'll most likely regret later in life. In most cases, holding the grudges caused
by someone (relation, friends or neighbors) in the past can determine how our future will be shaped. It's
either you let go and move on by forgiving others, or you keep holding back to the grudges which brings prolonged
pain and hurt, which in turns holds you down as a stumbling block.
Forgiveness in marriage is very necessary and is not optional. The problems in most marriages which brings about divorce could've easily been resolved if one party or both parties had let down their pride and let go of the hurt caused by the other. A word as little as 'i'm sorry' and actually being remorseful when said can go a long way in changing the other persons' emotion. But as humans, we are usually blinded by the need to retain our pride and dignity.
What happens if your spouse apologizes? do you weigh the problem first to see if its worth forgiving or you just go ahead and forgive since it's in your place to do so? I'll say the second option should be what you aim for after reading this post. With forgiveness, there's never a spare room to accommodate prolonged problems in your home, habor misunderstandings and consider divorce. The reasons below will show you why and how to develop a mind set that easily lets go of the hurt caused by others to you no matter what gravity it is.
While you hold the grudges in your heart against that person, you hold yourself back from getting over the pain and hurt and in turn, be happy. To have a marriage that will stand the test of time, one that every other person will admire, wish for and learn from is to have a heart that willingly forgives your spouse. If you can do this, you've basically solved about 70 percent of issues that may arise in future in your home.
You have to forgive because as humans, we aren't perfect and in our imperfection, we act in error thereby hurting others. The major reason why you have to forgive your spouse, children and relations is that you all are bounded by a bond of marriage and forgiveness is not a choice if you have to stay happily married.
As long as you're living together as a family, your spouse or kids will definitely do or say things that hurt you in ways only you can imagine. It is in your place to forgive them in order to have a peaceful family which others will want to emulate. When you learn to forgive them, they'll also learn to forgive you. These may sound easy but hard to practice in the beginning, but by developing a heart that willingly forgive others, you'll find out that you'll be able to easily forgive even in the worst scenarios.
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Forgiveness in marriage is very necessary and is not optional. The problems in most marriages which brings about divorce could've easily been resolved if one party or both parties had let down their pride and let go of the hurt caused by the other. A word as little as 'i'm sorry' and actually being remorseful when said can go a long way in changing the other persons' emotion. But as humans, we are usually blinded by the need to retain our pride and dignity.
What happens if your spouse apologizes? do you weigh the problem first to see if its worth forgiving or you just go ahead and forgive since it's in your place to do so? I'll say the second option should be what you aim for after reading this post. With forgiveness, there's never a spare room to accommodate prolonged problems in your home, habor misunderstandings and consider divorce. The reasons below will show you why and how to develop a mind set that easily lets go of the hurt caused by others to you no matter what gravity it is.
Why Forgiveness is necessary in marriage
While you hold the grudges in your heart against that person, you hold yourself back from getting over the pain and hurt and in turn, be happy. To have a marriage that will stand the test of time, one that every other person will admire, wish for and learn from is to have a heart that willingly forgives your spouse. If you can do this, you've basically solved about 70 percent of issues that may arise in future in your home.
You have to forgive because as humans, we aren't perfect and in our imperfection, we act in error thereby hurting others. The major reason why you have to forgive your spouse, children and relations is that you all are bounded by a bond of marriage and forgiveness is not a choice if you have to stay happily married.
How to Position yourself to forgive others
- Know that we are humans and as humans, it is in our nature to hurt others either knowingly or unknowingly. If you have grievances with your spouse, you tell them about it so that they know you've been hurt by their words or actions. Thereafter, you let go of it and that's forgiveness. By telling them, you free yourself from holding it back as a grudge, which if kept bottled up continuously will definitely explode one day. By telling your spouse what words or actions they'd said or done to offend you, they can learn from it and be cautious in order to avoid repeating same.
- You shouldn't always expect people to apologize to you, most especially after they've hurt you. You can forgive your spouse with or without them admitting they were wrong and thereafter asking for your forgiveness. The problem most time is not in the inability to forgive but in the inability to let go before people admit they've wronged us. Forgive without expecting to hear "i'm sorry". By doing this knowingly, it'll get to a point when your mood will harldy change when your spouse offends you and then to a time when you forgive and forget entirely.
As long as you're living together as a family, your spouse or kids will definitely do or say things that hurt you in ways only you can imagine. It is in your place to forgive them in order to have a peaceful family which others will want to emulate. When you learn to forgive them, they'll also learn to forgive you. These may sound easy but hard to practice in the beginning, but by developing a heart that willingly forgive others, you'll find out that you'll be able to easily forgive even in the worst scenarios.
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