This
post centers on a husband's expectation of his wife. As a wife, you
might wonder what you've been doing wrong that seems to drift your
family apart. You think you've been a good wife, raised your kids in the
manner that is most proper, yet he isnt giving you as much attention as
you require or as he used to when you two were courting? If the answer
is yes, you'll probably want to take time out and read this in order to
build and keep a peaceful home.
There are several reasons why this might or is happening and they can all be summarized into his expectations of you as his wife. Every one has an expectation and when it concerns two married people, when these expectations are not met, then there can be problems in the home. If you're lucky, you get toknow his expectations but if you aren't, you'll be left with your fingernails to chew while pondering what you could've done and what you should do to make it all go away
No one likes the feeling of knowing someone else thinks they're useless especially someone as close to them as their spouse. Never make derogatory comments to your husband which will make him feel he isn't performing his responsibility as a man. This can also be visible in continuous complaints, and one thing men don't like is , 'a nagging wife'. After working so hard at the office, frustrated and trying to make ends meet for the family, the last thing he'll want to come home to is someone telling him he hasn't done enough.
Even if it seems it's not his best, be appreciative. We all probably have a side of the brain that kicks in when we're appreciated so, to expect and get more from him, appreciate the little he has done. This way, he'll always welcome the thought of returning home to you with a warming smile
Though from biblical teachings, the responsibility of providing for the family lies with the husband, as a wife, your duty is to be a help meet to him. In your finances, being married automatically makes what belongs to you also his. Not only in finances but in support, encouragement especially in his trying times. The last thing you should ever think of is deserting him. Always have the phrase 'for better for worse' at the back of your mind, it is in times like this that it was formulated. You can also help him by giving meaningful advices using the most respectable approaches.
You agreed to marry him for a reason and whatever happens or has happened, those reasons or traits you saw in him haven't changed. In an effort to make him better, try not to compare him with others especially in his trying times. It's bad enough that his colleagues or friends are doing better than him, are ahead of him to also have you rub it on his face. Even in the circles of friends, learn to defend him when they make derogatory remarks about your husband's progress.Talk to him about your concerns and ask how the areas where you can help him.
In raising the kids, making decisions pertaining to the welfare of the family, the final decision lies with him. If his decision varies from what you're expecting or you his decision think is improper, politely express your views to him, afterall, two heads are better than one.
Being married to him, your husband expects you to open up to him, share your fears, strengths and weakness. This helps in strengthening the bond between bothof you and lets him know how much you depend or rely on him for support. In a way, this can help in boosting his ego knowing that someone counts on him for support. By opening up to him, you create an avenue for himto share his secrets and worries to you. Men like hiding under the mask that they're strong, but deep down, he could have weakness he is unable to tell anyone. As his wife, get close to him and open up, you'll be surprised at hom much he himself has kept bottled up for months or years.
The listed above may seem hard to go through with, but when you consider the peace in your home, you'll agree it's worth trying an dputitng so much effortto make it work.. Your family will definitely be a happy home and your kids will be most proub to have you two as their parents
There are several reasons why this might or is happening and they can all be summarized into his expectations of you as his wife. Every one has an expectation and when it concerns two married people, when these expectations are not met, then there can be problems in the home. If you're lucky, you get toknow his expectations but if you aren't, you'll be left with your fingernails to chew while pondering what you could've done and what you should do to make it all go away
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List of A Husband's Expectation In Marriage
1. Never make him feel he's not trying his best
No one likes the feeling of knowing someone else thinks they're useless especially someone as close to them as their spouse. Never make derogatory comments to your husband which will make him feel he isn't performing his responsibility as a man. This can also be visible in continuous complaints, and one thing men don't like is , 'a nagging wife'. After working so hard at the office, frustrated and trying to make ends meet for the family, the last thing he'll want to come home to is someone telling him he hasn't done enough.
Even if it seems it's not his best, be appreciative. We all probably have a side of the brain that kicks in when we're appreciated so, to expect and get more from him, appreciate the little he has done. This way, he'll always welcome the thought of returning home to you with a warming smile
2. Be an help to him
Though from biblical teachings, the responsibility of providing for the family lies with the husband, as a wife, your duty is to be a help meet to him. In your finances, being married automatically makes what belongs to you also his. Not only in finances but in support, encouragement especially in his trying times. The last thing you should ever think of is deserting him. Always have the phrase 'for better for worse' at the back of your mind, it is in times like this that it was formulated. You can also help him by giving meaningful advices using the most respectable approaches.
3. Don't compare him to others
You agreed to marry him for a reason and whatever happens or has happened, those reasons or traits you saw in him haven't changed. In an effort to make him better, try not to compare him with others especially in his trying times. It's bad enough that his colleagues or friends are doing better than him, are ahead of him to also have you rub it on his face. Even in the circles of friends, learn to defend him when they make derogatory remarks about your husband's progress.Talk to him about your concerns and ask how the areas where you can help him.
4. Let him be the head
In raising the kids, making decisions pertaining to the welfare of the family, the final decision lies with him. If his decision varies from what you're expecting or you his decision think is improper, politely express your views to him, afterall, two heads are better than one.
5. Let him know your fears, secrets and burden
Being married to him, your husband expects you to open up to him, share your fears, strengths and weakness. This helps in strengthening the bond between bothof you and lets him know how much you depend or rely on him for support. In a way, this can help in boosting his ego knowing that someone counts on him for support. By opening up to him, you create an avenue for himto share his secrets and worries to you. Men like hiding under the mask that they're strong, but deep down, he could have weakness he is unable to tell anyone. As his wife, get close to him and open up, you'll be surprised at hom much he himself has kept bottled up for months or years.
The listed above may seem hard to go through with, but when you consider the peace in your home, you'll agree it's worth trying an dputitng so much effortto make it work.. Your family will definitely be a happy home and your kids will be most proub to have you two as their parents
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