But those words carry so much weight and shouldn't be taken lightly because it can make or break a relationship, especially when said too early or late
We all agree we love to hear these three magic words "I love you", at least from someone we deeply care about.
But those words carry so much weight and shouldn't be taken lightly because it can make or break a relationship, especially when said too early or late.
It's okay to have serious attraction early in a relationship but when your man confuses it for love,there is always something wrong.
According to expert,Tina B. Tessina, it could be a major red flag or mean he's caught up in the moment.
Compiled by YourTango here are seven signs your guy is saying those three magic words too soon:
- You haven't been dating for at least three to six months: Of course, there are always exceptions if you've been spending every waking minute together vs. only seeing each other once or twice a week. But in general, if your guy tells you he loves you before you've been dating for three to six months, he could be mistaking love for something else. "I'm a big believer in time. I wouldn't feel really confident if someone is saying it before six months because what they are is infatuated," says sociologist Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., a professor at the University of Washington and the author of The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples. "Am I going to bet the farm on that?"
- You haven't had sex yet: If you haven't yet slept together and he says "I love you," watch out. It could be a ploy to get you into bed." A man may say 'I love you' during sex, or to obtain sex, but don't necessarily think he really thought it through or means it," warns Tessina. "It's not a commitment in any way."
- You haven't spent enough time together to form a good foundation for a relationship: It sounds pretty simple, but plenty of us are just caught up in the moment when the L word is first uttered. But if you haven't spent real, quality time together and your relationship still feels on shaky ground, there isn't enough there yet for it to be true love. "Any time before you've spent time together and gotten to know each other is way too soon for either of you to say 'I love you,'" says Tessina. "There's no way either of you can know. I believe 'love at first sight' is only in hindsight." She says many of the couples she counsels come to her with high expectations of "instant" relationships and romance, and equally high frustration levels when things don't unfold that way. "Internet dating, coupled with movie and TV images of instant 'love at first sight' create expectations that prohibit people from getting to know anything about the character of the person they're dating, and don't give the couples a chance to develop what
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